There's a conversation many couples want to have\u2026
but few dare to start.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Not because it's complicated,
but because nobody wants it to sound like criticism, reproach or \"I don't fancy you anymore\".<\/p>\n\n\n\n
And no, that's not what it's about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Talking about trying new things in bed doesn't mean something is wrong<\/strong>. Innovating doesn't mean changing everything. Innovating is proposing<\/strong>, not imposing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n And that completely changes the conversation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This talk should not happen: It happens when: A walk, a drink, a quiet conversation. Instead of:<\/p>\n\n\n\n \"We always do the same thing\u2026\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n Try:<\/p>\n\n\n\n \"Lately I feel like trying new things with you.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n You're not pointing out a problem. And that lands very differently.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Nobody wants to feel examined. That's why something like this works better:<\/p>\n\n\n\n \"What if one day we change the plan a little?\" The key word is together<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The other person may:<\/p>\n\n\n\n All of that is valid.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Innovating also means respecting the other person's pace<\/strong>, not just your own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Sometimes innovating is:<\/p>\n\n\n\n Not everything has to be a revolution. Laughing together defuses tension. A light-hearted phrase can open more doors than a perfect speech.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Some ideas will work. Innovating isn't about getting it right every time, You say it with respect. Hay una conversaci\u00f3n que muchas parejas quieren tener\u2026pero pocas se atreven a empezar. No porque sea complicada,sino porque nadie quiere que suene a cr\u00edtica, a reproche o a \u201cya no me gustas\u201d. Y no, no va de eso. Hablar de innovar en el sexo no significa que algo vaya mal.Significa justo lo contrario:\ud83d\udc49 que te […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":30150,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[875],"tags":[],"ciudad":[956],"class_list":["post-29736","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-sexo-sin-tabues","ciudad-sevilla"],"yoast_head":"\n
It means exactly the opposite:
\ud83d\udc49 that you care enough to want to keep growing together.<\/p>\n\n\n\nFirst: let's clarify something important<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
It's not comparing.
It's not demanding.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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\u274c in the middle of exhaustion
\u274c after an argument
\u274c right when something didn't go as you expected<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2714 there is calm
\u2714 there is closeness
\u2714 there is complicity<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Outside the bedroom is usually the best place to talk about the bedroom.<\/p>\n\n\n\nStart by talking about yourself, not about what's missing<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
You're sharing a desire.<\/p>\n\n\n\nMake it an invitation, not an evaluation<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Or compared.
Or corrected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Would you like to try something different together?\"<\/p>\n\n\n\nTruly listen to the answer<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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Sometimes a nuance is enough.<\/p>\n\n\n\nHumour helps (a lot)<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
It takes the weight off the subject.
It makes everything flow better.<\/p>\n\n\n\nInnovating also means accepting that not everything fits<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Others not so much.
And that's okay.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
it's daring to try without fear of mistakes<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\nSo\u2026 how do you say it?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
With affection.
With curiosity.
And with the peace of mind of knowing that talking about this doesn't drive you apart<\/strong>, it brings you closer. Because when there's enough trust to say what you feel like,
there's a very solid foundation to keep building on<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"